So it's nothing beauty related but I guess I felt like having a little bit of a rant about hateful people. The thing about hateful people is that well they are hateful, big surprise I know but I mean they hate alot, alot of things, alot of people, alot of life and it's so unhealthy. The real thing is that it doesn't really matter what they are hating, because they are going to hate regardless if it wasn't their day or their boyfriend or their family or the weather or their hair or that pretty girl walking past you or that womans hair or gays or muslims or anything like that, it would be something else. Hate is just in their nature... regardless of what they are hating on. So don't listen to them... because chances are if they are hating gays or you or their life, they are hating everything. So really it has nothing to do with gays or you or their life. It just has to do with them and their outlook on life.
These people will bring you down to there level till you find yourself hating things aswell because every other word out of their mouth is likely to be a complaint... and it's gross. I say gross because I have a friend whom I love dearly but she is a very hateful person, probably because she was raised that way and she's great and beautiful but when she starts hating, she is unattractive and gross. Its like a 180 from the funny confidant girl I know. She uses the term 'faggot' regularly and then I'll say something like "Oh are they gay?" and she'll say no but she hates gay people as well. When we were younger at school she would voice it and then people would disagree with her and yell at her and for a long time I thought she had changed her ways, how could she not after hearing what people have to say on it? But really I guess she learnt to just not say it, to mask it because being so close with her every now and then she'll say things and I'm reminded of her homophobic comments back in grade 9. She doesn't believe in Global Warming. Which I whole heartedly disagree with, how can you not believe in global warming? It exists it's happening, the world is warming... how can you debate it? She then proceeded to explain exactly what global warming is and about how it isn't global warming but it's just happening. "But that's Global Warming...?" I would say and she would disagree and she would explain what is happening in the world and I would say "But that's climate change...?" and she would disagree and we went in a full circle till she just said 'No.' and proceeded till ignore me till I felt like leaving because who wants to keep company like that, let's discuss it. Let me learn about why you think that way, let me disagree. Let us both learn from our discussion and view points. I hate people who are so opinionated themselves they close up at the very idea of someone questioning them and the values they have built around them and covetted since in this case their close minded parents first educated it on them, "Now listen you! Global warming is fake! Invented! Gays should be killed and fucking migrants! Get rid of 'em muslims and fucking Arabian fucking faggots invading our fucking country taking our fucking jobs! Send them back! Send the fucking boats back!".... I can hear it now, the charming intellectual conversation in her living room that are so full of hate for other people it makes my heart ache. The fact people like this can exist in world where you no longer have the excuse of not knowing better. How dare you persucute someone for being who they are, from being where they are from and for feeling how they are feeling! Tell me dear, does your sex life with your boyfriend have anything to do with me? Our friendship? Or anyone around you? What was that? No, it doesn't? Correct. It has nothing to do with me, our friendship or anyone around you. So why does a gay persons partner or sex life have anything to do with you, your relationship with them or anyone around you? What was that? No, it doesn't? Correct. So why the fuck do you care!? Homophobia disgusts me, and it should disgust you because who you love has nothing to do with anyone else but you... so don't make it a problem for someone else.
I think about the statement "We are exactly who we are supposed to be." and it goes one of two ways, because on one side I think yes, I am exactly the way I am supposed to be but on the other hand I look at these people and I think "No! This can not be who you are supposed to be." you might think why do their homophobic values have to define them? But they do because it defines gays. It defines the law. It defines someones life, so it has to define them. Your values define you! What you say defines you! I can only hope that there is some big reason for why these people think the way they do, I'm not about to go all 'godly' on your ass but there just has to be a reason for why they are the way they are and why they should stay that way...
I pose to you this goal. When you open your mouth you can one of two ways, you can go negative and complain and be hateful and yess we are all like this sometimes and sometimes we just need to have a good bitch. But waking up in the morning have a think, am I going to be hateful today? Or am I going to be a happy, cheerful person that is nice to be around and lifts people up as opposed to dragging them down? Because which is nicer to be, dragged or lifted?
I'm going to try to let go of my hate for these people, and try to keep this particular person close to my heart and show them kindness and acceptance where it is lacking in their life, I might not be able to change their minds but I might be able to show them that hate just isn't worth the breath. I almost didn't have the breath to say all this but I felt like I had to, I had to really think about what I wanted to say and why so when I'm faced with a discussion about homophobia, I know what I'm going to say.
Good day to you all, and may the odds be ever in your favour.
Here is a quote, "When you wake up ask yourself. Am I going to believe all bad things fools say about me today? No."
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